How Infidelity Can Leave Us Permanently Traumatized
Cases of infidelity are more traumatizing than we’re willing to admit
I still have a couple of photographs of the man who would leave me permanently scarred all these years later. I probably shouldn’t, but I do.
It was an unusual turn of events, one I almost can’t believe myself when I rehearse it in my own mind. He was nothing at all like me. I was the wild, edgy girl from the wrong side of the tracks, he was the nerdy man with a boring job, glasses, and khakis.
He was everything I’d always promised myself I would not date. But there was something about him, something unique, something special. I decided I’d give him a chance, even if he was totally different from my “types” that I usually went for.
We met through a group of friends when we attended the same party. Scrunched up in the car on the way there, we were close, and it was awkward in both the right and wrong ways.
There was instant chemistry that transcended all the cultural differences that painted us as wildly different people. Nobody saw it coming that at the end of the night, after a while of chatting and getting to know each other, I’d hop in his car and we’d go back to his place to get to know each other more.
Neither of us had anticipated that a spontaneous make-out session and bathroom hookup would take place, but that’s exactly what ended up going down…
We would only reach the stage of foreplay and then call it a night. I went back home assuming I’d never see him again.
So, I was surprised when we bumped into one another two years later. It seemed fated somehow. That first night, we didn’t exchange contact details. We were planning on leaving it at that, a one-night encounter that we’d each walk away from.
When we encountered one another again, we just had to meet up for a date. We set it up and met at a local restaurant and things went surprisingly smoothly. We ended up clicking on a whole new level that neither of us had initially anticipated. We decided to make it official and began dating one another seriously.
From that point forward, we would date for two years before everything would come crumbling down.